Children are our future. But how can we ensure that they grow up to be happy and confident adults?
Arguments for strict parenting
Many children today grow up in a very permissive parenting environment, which can lead to them not knowing boundaries. However, strict parents are often very good for their children’s development. Through strict parenting, children learn not only discipline, but also respect and self-control. They know what they are allowed to do and what they are not allowed to do, and they usually also have a good relationship with rules and instructions. All these factors contribute to the fact that later in life, children can be expected to act responsibly and take their duties seriously. Many children grow up without boundaries and thus learn nothing about responsibility and humility. Without boundaries, children can act selfishly and unreasonably. They do not learn that there are rules that must be followed or that other people should be respected. Boundaries help children understand what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. Boundaries make children feel safe and secure. They know that someone is there for them, telling them what is right or wrong.
Arguments for loving parenting
In a time when there are so many different parenting methods and philosophies, it can be difficult to make the right decision for yourself and your child. But there are some good reasons that speak for a loving upbringing. For one thing, it has been scientifically proven that children who are brought up by their parents with love and attention are more self-confident and happier. They have higher self-esteem and are less prone to depression and anxiety. In addition, children who grow up in a loving environment are more creative and open to new things. They learn better to cope with new challenges and have a more positive attitude towards life in general. Last but not least, loving parenting is also good for the relationship between parent and child. When you treat your child with love and respect, you build trust and closeness, the two sides strengthen each other. In contrast, an authoritarian upbringing can alienate parents and children and create distance. All these points suggest that loving parenting is a good choice – both for the child and for the relationship between parent and child.
What is best for the child?
There is no simple one-size-fits-all recipe for raising a child. Every family and every child are individual and so parenting must be adapted to their needs and circumstances. Nevertheless, there are some basic tips that can be helpful in parenting. First of all, it is important that parents are consistent. Children learn best when they have clear rules and boundaries. If the parents give in once, the child will quickly notice and try to test these limits again and again in the future. Parents should also be as consistent as possible. If mum allows something and dad forbids something, this is confusing for the child and it no longer knows what it is allowed to do and what it is not. At the same time, it is important that the parents also trust the child. Children should always get positive feedback and feel that their parents are proud of them. Only in this way can they develop self-confidence and learn to accept mistakes.
In summary, there is no clear recipe for how to raise your child. You have to try out a lot and find out what is best for your child. The child’s personality also plays a big role in parenting. Some children need more freedom, others more structure. In any case, it is important to communicate with and listen to the child. This is the only way to find out what the child needs and how best to raise it.